Curse Of Lovely -- How to Break Free from the Demands of Others and Learn How to Say No

If you feel trapped, suffocated and oppressed by the weight of others' expectations, this book will help you to break free and live life on your terms. A fresh twist on assertiveness.

Are you just too nice to say no?

Do you consistently put the needs of others above your own? Do you avoid conflict or feel anxious about letting people down? If you are worn out by always saying yes then you are probably suffering from what psychologist Jacqui Marson calls 'the curse of lovely'.
To be known as lovely may be appealing but it can also be a curse. Your relationships, health, happiness and career can all be blighted by the belief - conscious or unconscious - that to be liked, loved and appreciated you must have the approval of others. And that usually means you are last on your own priority list!
This highly practical and motivating book shows you how to stop denying your own needs and start being lovely to yourself.
Discover:
* When lovely turns into a curse
* The lovely child - how it all begins
* How to uncover your true feelings and needs
* How to get your needs met and still be loveable
* The art of saying the gracious 'no'
* How to move on from the personal rules that put you at the bottom of the pile
If you feel trapped by the expectations of others this book suggests ways that you can, gently, set yourself free from the curse of lovely and live a more complete, fulfilling life.

Many people's lives, relationships, careers and wellbeing are blighted by the belief that to be liked, loved and accepted they have to limit themselves to the behaviours they believe are approved of by others. This might mean some or all of the following: always being polite, nice, helpful, charming, fun, making people feel good about themselves, not letting people down, never saying 'no', avoiding conflict and putting others' needs before their own.

In her 15 years of clinical experience as a psychologist Jacqui Marson has coined the phrase 'the curse of lovely' to describe this growing trend. Many people would like to be known as lovely, but for a growing number of people it can feel like a curse. They feel unable to put their own needs before those of everyone else, and feel that changing this is not an option. This highly practical and motivational book will show readers how to break curse of lovely to live a more complete, fulfilling life.

Contents include: when 'lovely' turns into a curse; the lovely child - how it all begins; the different shades of lovely - which one are you?; from curse to gift - how we can still be lovable and get our needs met; but what do I want - how to tune in to what your body is telling you; re-evaluating anger; saying 'no' and surviving; how to instigate scary conversations; and how to replace the personal rules that put you at the bottom on the pile.